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This is How Incredibly Successful People THINK

Do you have a dream?

Of course you do. So what’s holding you back?

You may not like the answer, but the answer might be you.

A lot of people come up with ideas and have NO IDEA how they’re going to follow through and make it happen. Thomas Edison claims to have made around 10,000 attempts before getting the light-bulb to work.

Successful people look at ideas and challenges differently. After the initial idea, they set out to make it happen. They’re determined to figure it out.

A lot of people want to learn how to make money on the internet, but have no idea how to build a list or build a website or anything technical. Someone that’s going to be successful at making money on the internet is going to figure out and learn how to do it. Whereas someone that’s going to fail at this, and probably everything else they don’t know how to do right away, is going to look at the problem and just give up. Because they convince themselves that it’s too hard and they’re not smart enough.

That’s not true.

No one is an overnight success. No one.

If you’re going to become someone different or do something you’ve never done, you’re going to have to do something you’ve never done. This relates to relationships, business, parenting, fitness and many other things in life.

Don’t shy away from change.

It’s too easy to get ‘comfortable’ and watch life pass you by. But it’s really not that comfortable because it’s not who or what you want to be or do. It’s called the ‘comfort zone’ because people get in a zone and stay there. Even though they don’t like it, it feels safe to them and it’s what they know. It’s all they know for some people. But you had to learn what you learned to get you where you’re at. So if you want to become more successful you’re going to have to learn whatever that is that’s going to get you where you want to go.

It’s that simple.

It’s not easy.

There’s NO SHORT CUTS.

Start doing and/or learning what you need to, or accept where you’re at right now. Because life doesn’t just get better because you wish it so.

Never Stop Pushing Yourself

Have you had a chance to do something recently that you used to do as a kid, but when it came time to do it you were way more hesitant than you ever imagined you would be?

Let me give you an example.

I grew up on 80 acres out in the country and it was awesome. I had an 80 acre playground to play war, ride horses, ride motorcycles, snowmobile, camp out and have bonfires.

Did I mention it was awesome?

A couple years ago we bought a couple motocross bikes to ride and I thought I’d show my kids some of the hills we used to ride. However, a couple friends with motocross bikes beat me to it. I found myself looking at this hill wondering if I could make it up. I couldn’t believe I was even questioning it. When I was younger I wouldn’t have even thought about it.

And the hill wasn’t that bad.

I think the biggest problem was that I hadn’t ridden for quite awhile. And I sure as hell hadn’t done any hill climbing in quite some time. After about 5 minutes of contemplating this ‘challenge,’ I twisted the throttle, popped the clutch and away I went.

It was nothing.

All In Your Mind

The problem was all in my mind. After I went up the hill I couldn’t believe I actually contemplated as long as I did. Even as I was watching others do it with no problem. After awhile we were climbing the steepest hills we could find because the first one was getting boring. Then we ended up joining a place that had even more challenging hills and trails.

All because we pushed ourselves outside of our comfort limits.

Going for Black

I’ve always wanted to have a black belt in martial arts but my parents never signed me up and I never really pushed it when I was younger. Then in my upper teens I started taking Tae Kwon Do and stuck with it until I advanced a couple of belts. After awhile my instructor moved and I never found another to keep on learning and advancing.

I got married, had kids, was working and let life get in the way. But I still thought about getting my black belt occasionally. Then one day, realizing I wasn’t going to get any younger, I went to Aikido of Nebraska to inquire about their classes and before I knew it I was signed up. I signed up for multiple reasons. First, I want a black belt for the knowledge and skill to defend myself if need be. Second, it takes discipline to make it that far and I wanted to test myself. I’m still taking the test. Third, it’s a continual challenge.

Never Stop Learning

The first couple of classes were tough. The language was foreign, both figuratively and literally, and it was all new. New people, new environment, new challenges. But, like everything else, if you stick with it it becomes easier and more familiar. But the challenge with Aikido, as with a lot of things, is that just as you start to learn something and get it down, another technique is thrown at you to learn.

That makes you better.

It also holds people back from becoming and doing more. They’re afraid to make mistakes and ‘look’ dumb in front of the other students. It’s the same thing at work too. People are afraid to mess up in front of their coworkers.

But you can’t advance in life if you don’t mess up.

You learn from your mistakes. Or at least you should because now you know what not to do.

The number one rule at Aikido is: show up to class.

Pretty simple isn’t it?

Show up, keep learning and keep trying. It will all come together. But as soon as you quit, that’s it. That’s as good as you’re going to get. And the more familiar you become with anything, the easier it gets.

I could’ve said, “I’m too old,” or “I have too many injuries and ailments,” or the most commonly used excuse for not doing anything to improve your life “I don’t have time.”

It all comes down to what’s important to you. And never giving up on yourself, no matter how big of small the challenge is.

If it’s something that can/will make you better… do it.